A year before World of Warcraft came out, Linden Lab released Second Life, a virtual world that was supposed to be an alternative to this one but became for many a hopeful replacement. Over a decade later it looks archaic and feels almost quaint, but for the hundreds of thousands who still live part-time there, it’s worth considering why. Bridgette McNeal is one of the people still playing. She created an avatar in Second Life not long after it was released, gallivanting around it with her real-life husband. Sitting together in their house, the two would go on dates and curate their virtual lives, complete with a virtual home full of things they didn’t have in real life. She likened the experience she gets from the game to the sense of freedom discussed in Virginia’s Woolf’s essay “A Room of One’s Own.” The restrictions and societal barriers of real life don’t exist in Second Life, at least not in the same way. AdvertisementMcNeal’s time in the game was documented by Leslie Jamison in an essay from The Atlantic’s December issue. She and her husband have four children, including two with special needs, and Second Life helps provide a place where they can go an express themselves while not flouting their parental responsibilities. Another person Jamison spoke to was Jonas Tancred, a budding musician who began performing live for people in the game and eventually went on to have a child with one of the women he met there. And then there’s Alicia Chenaux (the name of an in-game avatar) who’s owner created an entire alternative nuclear family in Second Life.Jamison writes,“In real life, Alicia lives with her boyfriend, and when I ask whether he knows about her Second Life family, she says, ‘Of course.’ Keeping it a secret would be hard, because she hangs out with the three of them on Second Life nearly every night of the week except Wednesday. (Wednesday is what she calls ‘real-life night,’ and she spends it watching reality television with her best friend.) When I ask Alicia whether she gets different things from her two romantic relationships, she says, ‘Absolutely.’ Her boyfriend is brilliant but he works all the time; Al listens to her ramble endlessly about her day. She and Al knew each other for two years before they got married (she says his “patience and persistence” were a major part of his appeal), and she confesses that she was a ‘total control freak’ about their huge Second Life wedding. In real life, the man who plays Al is a bit older than Alicia—51 to her 39, with a wife and family—and she appreciates that he has a “whole lifetime of experiences” and can offer a ‘more conservative, more settled’ perspective.”While Jamison makes an attempt to play Second Life and fall under its spell, her imagination doesn’t take, which leads her to wonder and reflect on the people for whom it has taken on the role of a surrogate universe inviting them in to live their best, most preferred lives. It’s often easy to dismiss people’s escapism when it’s presented in the abstract, free of context, but the experiences shared in the piece are too intimate and detailed to be scoffed at. Advertisement“But maybe Facebook and Second Life aren’t so different in their appeal,” Jamison writes. “Both find traction in the allure of inhabiting a selective self, whether built from the materials of lived experience (camping-trip photos and witty observations about brunch) or from the impossibilities that lived experience precludes: an ideal body, an ideal romance, an ideal home.”The entire essay is worth reading.